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I May Have Overestimated My Chances

September 13, 2007 5:42 AM

hat girl I went on that date with is back in the States, as it turns out. Not that that does me any good.

While she was away, there was very minimal Facebook messaging contact. I didn't really get a good feeling about it. Then, I knew that she'd be back sometime this week, so I waited to see if she'd call. She didn't. So I messaged her on Facebook. She finally responded today, saying that she had a good time but that, right now, she's "involved" with someone, which struck me as rather odd.

The way I see it, she wouldn't have gone on some date with me if she was involved with someone before she left. And she's been back for about four days or something, so how the fuck is she now involved? Frankly, I'm pretty sure it's one of those "let him down easy" lies, which just makes me angry. If you're not attracted to me, that's cool, it happens. But don't fucking lie about it!

And if you're not lying, then what was that date all about? Seriously, what the fuck?

So, anyway, today was sort of a shitty day, but not just because of this thing. I'm just stressed about the future. Really, really stressed.

One general comment. I put up individual pictures for each of the category pages, so that each page gets its own customized page. I haven't finished making them all yet, and some of them suck right now, so bear with me. But check it out if you have a minute. Some of you might find that I included a picture of you. If you'd like me to take your picture down, let me know.

Also, are you all taking a "if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all" approach to my version of "Maps"?



8 Comments


Vice said:

Another possibility is that maybe she's not lying - maybe she has only "gotten involved" with a guy since she got back. That doesn't mean that she MET the guy since she got back. Maybe she knew him from before she left, and kind of liked him, but nothing had really happened yet. Which would make the date with you still a reasonable thing, if she had some feelings for both of you but wasn't actually in an exclusive relationship with either of you. Perhaps now that she's gotten back, her relationship with the other guy has progressed to that point.

All I'm saying is, don't just conclude that she's lying. That can quickly lead to hatred and burned bridges.

September 13, 2007 1:29 PM



estefanita said:

ok... maybe it was a way to cover up or maybe she met someone abroad? but just from my own experience....whatever the case, it is always nice to go out on a date. you have the whole unknown expectations, new person get to know them, anticipation thing. and obiviously it rarely ends up in a lasting connection. otherwise we'd wouldn't have so many dating horror stories. so whatever the story you guys had fun right? a good one date is better than a fucked up one. and yes i agree she should be honest whatever her reasons were/are but it can be scary to be honest and at least now you know if she wasn't capable of being up front she isn't worth the time and integrity you would have given her! just count it as a fun night and a potential friend.

September 13, 2007 1:35 PM



estefanita said:

umm i agree with vice. my first comment comes off too harsh. what i basically mean is don't assume she's lying just like vice says. it only leads to bad stuff and life is complicated and what you read from it isn't always what it seems....

September 13, 2007 1:40 PM



Ismael Tapia II said:

Mr. Vice,
Good points all around. I'm actually not that angry or hurt about it, but, given some other stuff, it just came off as insincere. But you're right that it's entirely possible that she was telling the truth in exactly the way you suggest. It doesn't really matter anyway. I was kind of hurt yesterday, but I'm over it now.

September 13, 2007 6:46 PM



ShakenNeighborSyndrome said:

existential nonsense is the well-hung giraffe from Chicago? Weird.

September 13, 2007 8:43 PM



Ismael Tapia II said:

Mr. Syndrome,
You try coming up with a literal picture for Existential Nonsense--I doubt you can do any better. I like that picture, anyway, even if the sculpture itself sucks.

By the way, nice to see that you're back in the blogosphere.

September 13, 2007 11:03 PM



ShakenNeighborSyndrome said:

I'm not being too critical, I've just always found that particular sculpture to be really odd. It's not a poor choice for existential nonsense, I'm just surprised to see it.

September 16, 2007 10:22 PM



Vice said:

Or, she could be an ex-samauri, and met someone a long time ago, but was forced to forego that relationship in accordance with the samurai code. But now she may have given up her life as a samurai, and no longer lives by the code.

September 17, 2007 1:42 PM



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